The end.

When I first started this class, I have to admit that I was a little emphasize about the whole blogging thing. After a week or two when by and I start getting the grasp of things, I realize that it wasn't so bad after words. Much better than the usual English class were you write 3-4 papers lengthy papers. I think that all English classes should be based off this particular class structure instead of the old tradional way most of us were use to doing. Unlike any of my other class, this class had a lot more of peer interaction and through reading everyone's blogs every week, you actually learned more about the different people in your class and their viewpoints of different issues.

Suicide And Divorce Link

Divorce brings on a lot of physical and emotional stress into a person's lifestyle. It is believed that if your going through a divorce or been through a divorce that you are at a greater risk for suicide. Researchers found that divorced people are three times more likely to commit suicide than people who are married or never been married and the divorce is the number one link in all suicide cases in major US cities. Divorce ranked all other physical, financial, and psychological factors.When breaking it down into gender, women are more likely to attempt suicide, but are most often unsuccessful, where as men who do attempt suicide are more likely to succeed. Men tend to have a higher suicide rate because they are more likely to use guns to kill themselves, whereas women attempt suicide with less lethal methods, such as poisonings or cuts.

Men and women also have different ways of coping. Men tend to have friends that they can have fun with, but a lot of time men don't share feelings amongst other men about the daily problems their going through. Where as women are most open to their friends and tend to have friend so they can talk about their feelings. Women are socialized to have more friends and deeper friendshipw where they tend to share more personal information amongst each anotehr. Men are socialized differently, to be macho, do not have much deeper friendships, and when a man show weakness to another man, he feels like he is less of a man. So when a divorce occurs, women have more of a social support network.


Why do people going through a divorce feel the need to end their live?

Most of the reasoning behind a person who is going through a divorce to thinks about suicide is because the feel inadequate, unwanted, and ashamed. Most men have suicidal thoughts during or after a divorce, feel like they fail at "being the head of the household" and that they are longer needed. This may make a man feel ashamed that he couldn't keep this household together and happy or inadequate at the role he played within the household. While a woman may feel needed because a woman tends to keep the children after divorce compare to a man, sometimes the demand of suddenly having to step into the "head of household" role is too demanding and she feels like she will unable to meet the demands of her changing lifestyle. Their are many reasons why a divorce can make someone think about or attempt suicide. These were just a few reasons, but in general, everyone wants to feel wanted, loved, successful, and be proud of where they are in life. Without this senses of these feelings, sometimes people feel they are unable to cope with life demands and are very unhappy with the way things are currently going in their life and decide to take their own life.

I can understand that some people feel the demands of a divorce can be too overwhelming at time, but no one should ever have to feel they have to take their own life to escape their problems.

"The Divorce Song" by Steven Lynch

Contested And Uncontested Divorce

There are two kind of divorces, a contest and uncontested. A contested divorce is one is which the parties cannot agree, either about getting a divorced itself or about the terms of the divorce, such as the division of assets, the custody of the children, child support, allocation of debts, and alimony. In an uncontested, divorce, the spouses agree on everything and do not need the court to divide the assets or make the determinations about alimony, child support, or custody. In general, a uncontested divorce will proceed through the system more quickly, be much less complicated, and less of a financial burden.

Most couples tend to begin the process of a contested divorce and then, before the actual trial, reach to some sort of agreement on the financial terms and otherwise, of the divorce. This is called a settlement. One of the biggest advantages of a settlement is that neither spouse will appeal it because they both agreed upon it and thus are presumably happy with it. Both parties can therefore be assured of finality and an end to litigation. If you reach a settlement with your spouse, it is essential to have the agreement memorialized in such a way that it makes the settlement legally binding and enforceable.

This is called a settlement. One of the biggest advantages of a settlement is that neither spouse will appeal it, because both by definition agree to it and thus are presumably happy with it. Both parties can therefore be assured of finality and an end to litigation. If you reach a settlement with your spouse, it is essential to have the agreement memorialized in such a way that it makes the settlement legally binding and enforceable.

It is becoming more and more popular for spouses to "do their own divorce", eliminating the legal costs involved with hiring lawyers. Spouses that are successful doing their own divorce are almost always in agreement, thus they are doing an uncontested divorce. This is something you may want to consider before hiring costly lawyers if you and your spouse are in agreement with the terms you wish to divorce upon.

It is not recommended that either spouse attempt to represent him or herself in a contested divorce. There is an famous quote, "he who represents himself in court, has a fool for a client". This is very true, because the complexities of a contested divorce are far to much for the average untrained individual to absorb. The financial and emotional repercussions of acting as your own lawyer in a contested divorce case can be devastating.

Today, you will find that most judges and lawyers prefer to settle out of the court in an uncontested fashion. If you and your spouse can not come to some type of agreement on your own, typically your lawyer will help you reach eventually, but result maybe that the one party or both parties will not be happy with the outcome of a contested divorce.

Choosing A Divorce Attorney: Quick Tips

Depending upon whether you and your spouse are confident enough to draft up your own divorce agreement, you will be able to limit your use and an save on the expense of an attorney. If you and your spouse are able to compromise and find a agreement within a drafted up divorce agreement than you can limited the use of an attorney to initial advice, quick information, final evaluation, and feedback. Instead of using a attorney from start to finis, which most likely is always more costly to do. Either way, whether you choose to use a attorney from start to finish or on a very limited bases, it is wise to have one but to what extent you use the attorney is up to you.

When you do hire a attorney, you should take more time into besides just running your finger through the yellow pages until you spot the word "divorce" or simply hiring a lawyer who helped you in the past negotiate your office lease or draw up your will. You need to hire a attorney that is experienced in family law. "In some states, attorneys can be board-certified in family law. These lawyers specialize in divorce cases and other kinds of family law issues. To be certified, they must have significant trial experience and pass a rigorous test. To maintain their certification, they must receive substantial continuing education in family law each year, generally twice the amount of required continuing education of non-board certified family law attorneys (Divorce, 2005)." These type of attorneys do tend to be quite pricey and demand higher retainers to begin a family law case than those who are not board-certified, but they are usually more experienced.

The attorney you use should be able to talk with you in plain English or in other words, not legalese. This person should be someone that your able to trust and feel comfortable with because you may have to reveal highly personal information about yourself and your marriage. If you do have young children, that you should pick a divorce lawyer who keeps your children's needs first and that he or she will not purse an outrageous amount of child support or help you pursue vindictive child custody and visitation arrangements. And last but not least, your attorney should be affordable.


References:

Ventura J., & Reed, M. (2005). Divorce for Dummies, 2nd ed. New York, NY: Wiley Publishers.

Get Divorce Online...It Can Be That Simple!

When I had first had to idea to do divorce as my blog topic and goggle divorced, I was shocked to believe that you can get divorce online. "Divorce Online" sites have been making appearances on CNN news and other shows. Yes people, they just made ending your marriage that much easier and for an average low cost of around or a little under $300.00. You just have to give them your credit card numbers, answer a couple of simple questions, and they take care of the rest. They send you completed forms in the mail and all your require to do is sign on the dotted lines. What even shocked me more was the number of people that were actual engaging in this sites to quickly end their marriage because apparently it is becoming a normal affair.

Why are they making it so easy to divorce, but you can not get married just as easily. You cannot get legally married online or over the phone so are we allowing people to get divorce legally online or over the phone? You shouldn't be able to end your marriage by the swipe of your credit card if you can not get married with the swipe of the same card.

Some of the top sites that divorce you practially over night and making tons of money over ending marriages with a quickest are:

1. Completecase.com
2. LegalZoom.com
3. DivoreMe.com

These are just three of the many sites out there that allow you to get divorce online. I do not believe that you should be able to get divorce online. Do you? Should it really be made that easy?

Final Analysis: Potential Sources

Although I am still a little unsure about how I want to actually approach the final analysis, I have begin looking for sources that I can use to help compose my final analysis. There are a lot of bloggers within my genre and a lot of them have very strong different opinions on divorce itself. Some of actually been trough a divorce themselves while others have been affected about a divorce, but within my blogging community no one was left unaffected, just affected in different ways.

I thought I used for sure Pat's Divorce Blog because personally believe that she is one of the leading bloggers in my genre and has been about divorce for quite some time now. Her content is well formulated, her passion show about the subject shows, and she shares her own personal experiences.

Another source I thought I used was Divorce Net, which is a popular site on the Internet that puts divorce has it main focus. I could use this as a reference, but unlike Pat's Divorce Blog, it is just a general approach to divorce and lacks someone's own personal experiences. The site serves more as a purpose to give general information and where to seek help.

These are just two of the sources I plan to use and I am still looking for several more that I can possible use to guide me in writing my final analysis. I have came different sources, but most of them have been lacking consistency or creditability. I know that there are more worthy bloggers and sites out through, it just taking me some time to find them.